Getting A Man To Propose To You
One day I went to an eatery to have lunch, there were two ladies at my back that came to eat as well. Will eating, I overheard these two ladies were discussing the journey of their life as regards to men and how they have been deceiving all the men that came around them. Do you know the worst of it all? These ladies are at their late 20s if not early 30s and yet they are still single. One thing that motivated me into writing this letter to all the single ladies out there is because of what one of them said and I quote. “But babe, shea you know say person no be girl again and all those useless guys no fit show true love or propose”
That’s very bad I guess and at that point I couldn’t continue with all they bullshit they were discussing, so I have to take my leave.
I decided to write this in response and as an answer to what one of them said just to tell you what you must do before Getting A Man To Propose To You. How I wish those ladies are reading this letter because this is a must read for all they single ladies especially Nigerians. Getting a man To Propose is no more that easy. Most men, who are willing to get married find it very difficult to get a wife because of the way most girls behave, In a nutshell, they just want a happy and easy-going woman who has good values. Want a marriage proposal fast?
- You are yourself
Honestly you don’t have to be everyone else! Men love ladies that live their natural life. He may appear to complain to some of the things you, but in the other way round, he will prefer you to that fake girl you choose to be. A lady, who is constantly talking about what other people do and what they have, places a lot of undue pressure on her man. Be yourself, live your normal life and shun pretenses.
- You appreciate his mother/siblings
Over 80% of the guys love their mother more than their father. Just the same way you will like your son to love you when he grows up to be a man and would not want him to neglect his duties as a son because of one girl he met out there in the street. Most guys believe that they can always get a new wife when they loss theirs but can never get another mum when they lose the only one they have. So try not to interfere into this factor as your own son will do it to another girl when it’s your turn. Never make negative comments about mothers-in-law whenever you are around him. Let him know his mother is as special to you just as she is to him. His siblings? Show love to even the nastiest of them all, it’s just a matter of time and you will get married.
- Don’t force him to change
Some women claim to love a man ‘just the way he is’ but little by little, they want to change everything about him. First, it’s his wardrobe, then, it’s his taste in music. Never attempt to change his friends and his hobbies either. Literally, ladies are the once that you adapt into a man’s hubbies and not the man into the lady’s hobbies or friends.
- You don’t see him as a father
In a nutshell here, grow up and Stop being too childish. Not all men like to be viewed as a father figure. Initially, he might like how you look to him for approval and the answer to all of your questions, but soon, he realizes that he wants to be intimate with a real woman, not someone who is stuck in her teen years trying to get daddy to notice her.
You decided to go to his place to see him, but he left his bed undressed and went out just for that day. You mustn’t call him on phone to ask him whether you will dress that bed! Dress it and let him come back and see it better than the way he left it.
- You are not clingy
As a woman, you must have something going on in your own life so that you are not always clinging to him. Don’t be too difficult for a man to date, let alone marry. At first, he is flattered that you are so in love with him and wants to be around him always; but very quickly, he feels overwhelmed and suffocated by you falling on his name, chest and shoulder all the time. Give him space and let him do other things. Hid life is not tied all around you.
- You are not over jealous
Jealousy is a very good and necessary tool that keeps every relationship alive but not when it’s crosses it’s borders. You don’t let him have other female friends but you give out your contact to other guys out there. Sorry! A jealous woman is on edge always because she is very distrusting. Just because you have been hurt in the past, don’t be on guard for anything that looks or feels wrong. When a man first meets such a woman, he wants to reassure her that he is nothing like that guy in her past. However, once she accuses him one too many times, he will have no choice but to leave her because he can’t go through his life being prosecuted for somebody else’s crimes. So, learn to trust, It will help you a lot.
- Not tied to your mother’s apron strings
Don’t be a mummy’s pet just the same way you will no like a guys that is mama’s boy. A man is comfortable with you when he realizes you don’t call on your mother always to make a decision on your affair with him. He gets scared the more when you cannot do without getting her opinion on everything.
- You don’t talk about others always
Its true most ladies talk and gossip a lot but yours should have limit. Most guys are turned off when you always love to gossip and talk about other people. Not only that, when you love to hear things about other people as well. Initially, this could entertain him but eventually, he begins to wonder what you are saying when he is not around. If you cannot keep some little secrets, he will not trust you into telling you anything worth keeping as a secret because the same way you rant your mouth around him is exactly what you will do once he is not around.
- You are not bossy
Some ladies try to control a man like a military head of state. Funny right? You must that when a man first meets you, and thinks your character trait is OK, he starts to feel he should propose and walk down the aisle with you. However, once he starts to feel like he is in grammar school being told what to do by his teacher, he will take a bold walk and leave your life for the nearest girl around.
Some guys will simply play along with you, act like they don’t know what you are doing and once they have gotten to see the end of that hole, Then simply back off and that when you will realize that you have be fooled by a smart dude who acted to be fooled by you. Guys are actually smarter than ladies think and some cases some guys will just open up your dirty page and all the games you have been playing leaving you to wonder how come they know everything you have been doing.
Never ever think that being a game player will help you get a man. Though he might be intrigued by a hard-to-get lady in the beginning, as soon as he decides that he is interested in her, all he wants is an honest straight-shooter.
Just be good and a good man will come to you. Stop looking for a real man when you are living a fake life. Don’t assume he doesn’t know all those crapy things you’re doing. A guy can surprise you when you least expected and you will be the one that will end up crying for heart break.
I wish you the best in your relationship and may God bless you.
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